Recently I have heard many mamas talking about their own self-care slump over the summer. Self care goes out the window when the children are around more and there is a lack of routine. I have repeatedly found myself really understanding the people in my practice who have such a hard time with self-care appointments, especially over the summer.
I can relate to this dilemma because I am a “helper-type” person. It is easier and more natural to help others before myself. Many coaches of mine over the years have reminded me that on an airplane, adults are instructed to put their own oxygen mask on first before applying the mask to their child. This rule is so important for me as a caregiver and as a mama.
In examining my summer of little self care, I look back to where the train left the proverbial track. While looking at my life under the magnifying glass, I saw that I even went 10 weeks without a haircut. Until the woman who does my hair told me, I hadn’t even realized it. I was traveling in the time-warp machine called KIDS KNOW HOW TO GET THEIR NEEDS MET. Having decided to learn from this summer, I implement a system to stop the train from veering so far away from the rails. I now make future appointments while at my appointments. And I even schedule several appointments ahead. This means that even if I miss one, I am okay because I already have the next one in place. In my appointment challenged world, this tiny little tweak helps.
I am heading over to that fabulous chiropractor, Dr Steve, to make my appointments for my adjustments, one of my favorite self-care steps! If you are at all like me and have a hard time fitting yourself in, remember our home mantra, “If Mama ain’t happy, ain’t NOBODY happy.” So do the things that make you happy; if not for yourself, then for your family. They have to live with you!